Change your story

Change your story

14th January 2025

[Source: The Probe October 2024]

Changing your story describes a way of making a change or a series of changes that sets you on a new path or, at least, one that’s fundamentally different to the one you’re on now. People change their story usually in response to circumstances or the feeling that life they’re living might need a shake-up. It could be health-related, a career u-turn or a sudden desire to live off-grid in a shack in the middle of nowhere. Wherever your thoughts might take you, they are always worth listening to. 

Any kind of change is likely to be a big deal – but only to you and your immediate circle. There’s a great word – sonder – it reminds us that every other living person exists not only in relation to us (we are so self-absorbed!) but they have their own 360-degree life. I think to remember this gives us some perspective, tells us that our story is important, but is only of genuine significance to us and our family or close friends. Being brave enough to change your story can feel monumental but might only result in a passing comment to your friends and colleagues.

Change your narrative

What if the story you’ve been telling yourself isn’t the full picture? Have you ever paused to question the assumptions you’ve made about your career or your potential? Sometimes, the key to change is as simple as telling a different story. Instead of “I’m not ready,” try “What if I could?” Instead of “I’ve always done it this way,” how about “Why not try something new?”

What excites you?

When thinking about changing your story, ask yourself what genuinely excites you. Not just what you’re good at or pays the bills, but what makes you feel energised and motivated. Is there a path or new area of your career that you’ve always dreamed of tackling? Revisit that idea. It might be where your next chapter begins. 

Think about undertaking some training, or researching your ideas further, it could lead you to dismiss or develop that train of thought. I knew someone who gave up a very lucrative corporate position in the city to train with one of the UK’s top florists. She developed a brand, set up a studio, launched a new business, had a van sign-written, enjoyed lots of publicity… and absolutely hated it. She returned to her former employ, unfazed, undeterred and richer for the experience. Being a florist excited her in theory but not in reality. How amazing to have been that brave and also to have had the experience. 

Your life plans don’t have to be linear

It’s tempting to map out the next five years in detail, but career stories often don’t follow a straight line. Have you considered letting your 5-year plan be a bit more fluid? Is there a rush? Within dentistry we talk a lot about career pathways. What if, instead of ticking off goals, you focus on building experiences, learning, and growth? Shifting your perspective to see your career as a journey rather than a checklist can help you embrace the twists and turns along the way. You don’t have to become a florist to do it but you could try different kinds of dentistry, in a variety of settings. I believe it adds up to a rewarding, potentially more interesting career.

A change-story is the narrative you create when you decide to shift the direction of your life. It’s a conscious decision to reframe your experiences and set new intentions. Whether it’s stepping into a new career, taking on a leadership role, or even just adjusting your work-life balance, your story is yours to reshape. Changing your story isn’t always easy, but it’s entirely possible. With reflection, small steps, and the courage to be brave, you can create a new narrative—one that’s fulfilling, authentic, and uniquely yours. 

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